How to Get Important People to Notice You

I'll assume that you're interested in the various aspects of Internet Marketing, including Affiliate (Associate) Programs, or you wouldn't be here ... well, do you want to understand how to figure out all of this stuff and get to the people who have the best products and the best affiliate deals?

(And avoid the silly, nonsense deals that are a waste of time?)

You do? Then let’s see if it’s a load of ____ or not …

Lets' go ...

Can’t you just tell who’s pitching a deal and their only real motivation is money? Their amateurish approach screams out …

“Beware! Beware!”

But - do you also notice the deals that seem to be ‘real?’

How to tell the difference?

Should you gamble on ‘unknowns’ or shoot for Big Players?

I’m glad you asked …

What I want you to think about now is how in the world can all of the so-called gurus be right, when they seem to all say different things and have different ways to reach your goals?

Isn't that a little bit like one guru saying, "2+2=4" and the next one saying, "2+2=5?"

What gives here?

Let's find out ...

Do you really think the Big Players got to be Big Players over the years by ripping people off?

It's a safe bet to nod your head "No" right there …

Do you really think they got to be where they are because they just recycled the same ol' people until the people's credit cards were maxxed out and they couldn’t buy any more?

It's also a safe bet to nod your head "No" right there …

Is there really some sort of conspiracy that eliminates you before you get started ... one that ignores and disenfranchises you?

Yes - there is ...


Yes …

Well … OK ­ but why?

Until you spend time with the Big Players, you’ll never really understand them. Sorry ... but that 's the truth.

Well, then ... you ask, "How am I supposed to begin to understand them?" I'm glad you asked ...

To understand the 'gurus' get up out of your chair. Walk down the hall. Go find the nearest mirror ...

Look in it ...

They all started in that mirror.

Do you really think they were born with an Internet silver spoon? If so, lose that victim mentality of yours right now.

The gurus are just little guys who weren't afraid to fail.

So don’t look at them like demi-gods who have the Midas touch ...

As they say in Tennessee where I live, "It just ain't so ..."

If you ever acquire the skills to know how to begin right relationships with the Big Players, you'll see ‘you’ in them.

Do you like to be spammed to death every day?

Neither do they.

Take the number of spams you get and multiply it by 10.

You're starting to get their picture.

Ever see the stars on Entertainment TV fighting with the paparazzi? Getting the picture?

Imagine walking out in public at a live event, and you cannot spend time with your other Big Player friends you probably only get to see once or twice each year because of all the little players who swarm you like melting chocolate at an ant picnic.

Getting the picture yet?

OK - I won’t beat a dead horse here.

What do you do to overcome this?

I'm glad you asked...

Put in one sentence where everyone can understand it …

The Big Players all add value to each other. They know, like, and trust each other. This developed over time …

How did they get to that point? They built wonderful relationships over the years. They did not spam each other with ridiculous emails telling each other that they could be rich overnight and do zero work to get there.

They worked at it diligently. They were persistent.

If a campaign failed, they didn’t pack up their marbles and sulk all the way home. They did not proclaim that “All this Internet stuff doesn’t work.”

They learned their markets. They studied their niche. They produced valuable products that will help you, too. They kept on keepin’ on till they figured it out …

Do you?

Hey - why don’t you trust them?

Because some are frankly not trustworthy.

Sorry … that’s the truth.

What ­ now why do you say that? (Because it’s the truth …)

Hey ­ isn’t that the whole point in a relationship? Do you always and immediately like everyone you meet? Do some people have bad days? Are some people stuck-up? Some arrogant? Do some people just ‘rub you the wrong way?’

OK - go back to the mirror …

The Big Players are you. If they were kind, gentle and helpful before they gained notoriety, they probably still are.

If not … not …

But remember that they get bombed with every stupid, crazy, unethical, goofball deal flopping around the Internet today.

Blame them for being a little testy at times? (Well … don’t …)

The Big Players are you … just further up the Internet path due mainly to their persistence, diligence, and lack of fear to try new things.

Be them … and you’ll understand them. Be them … and add value to their lives … and then they’ll notice you.

That great first contact is the beginning of the relationship.

Without it you don’t have a prayer.

With it, you have the Keys to the Kingdom.

Now ­ re-evaluate your own approaches and ideas, and get yourself on the ‘right’ path … not the one most everyone else travels. That path is noisy, overcrowded, and straining at the seams. It’s a bit like trying to crowd interstate traffic onto an old 2-lane backroad …

... whatever everyone else is doing … you do the opposite.

That’s what Jay Conrad Levinson teaches in Guerrilla Marketing. Jay is one of my favorite contributors in FCS. You can learn a lot from Jay. It’s also what Trout & Ries teach …

And they didn’t get where they are today by hawking silly deals everyone else is beating to death at the same time.

So … be different … be a little crazy … marketing is not about slamming your deal down innocent people’s throats and hoping some sucker coughs up his or her credit card.

You’ll just get more refund requests.

It’s about relationships.

Over time.

Through relationships trust is earned. Trust is not a right.

It's a privilege.

Are you earning the trust of the people you contact?

Which day do you think is the best day to begin?

Here's one final thought ...

"Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known."
Carl Sagan

Best Wishes,

Chip Tarver
Author, "First Contact Secrets"

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